When someone exhibits these 9 behaviors, they are silently judging you

Unless you have a talent for reading minds, it can be difficult to tell when someone is silently judging you.

We are conditioned to behave a certain way in the interest of politeness. But if you know what to look for, you can recognize subtle signs of contempt.

Your gut will be the first to tell you if you are being judged. Do not be afraid trust your instincts because more often than not your intuition doesn't know what's going on.

Be aware of your feelings, but don't feel like you have to act on them. After all, this is not your fault. Remember that other people's approval does not determine your worth.

The only person's approval you need is your own.

So what exactly are you looking for when you think you're being judged? Here are a few clues to look out for that could mean someone is judging you.

1) Body language

Understanding body language is always a useful skill to have. It helps you read between the lines of a conversation and get an idea of ​​what others are thinking.

The next time you communicate with someone, take the opportunity to examine their body language. It is usually much more revealing than their words alone.

For example, people convey their approval with a smile or encouraging nods – and their disapproval with blank stars or thinly veiled contempt. Their actions may not match their words. These people may silently judge you.

2) Over-the-top kinking

This little bit of body language deserves its own place.

Let me ask you: have you ever participated in a conversation where your companion nods like a bobblehead toy?

Excessive nodding is often an indication of silent judgment. The person presents a facade of agreement, while internally taking apart everything you say.

Okay, some people just nod. It's the way they communicate commitment and don't shy away from it. However, when exaggerated nodding is accompanied by other signals, there is a good chance that someone is silently judging you.

But it's all about the context of the specific discussion and the general behavior of the person you're talking to. Trust your intuition!

3) Detachment

To achieve a good result, genuine interest from all parties involved is required productive conversation. When someone else is really interested in what you're saying, they'll be happy to engage with you.

On the other hand, if someone judges you, chances are they won't show this kind of interest. Their questions may feel obligatory, or they may not bother asking clarifying questions at all.

They may appear cold or distant; they are a reluctant observer rather than an active participant in the conversation.

4) Short response

If someone is passing judgment in secret, their answers may be short or to the point curt.

This can translate into one-word answers or repeating what you said without adding anything of value to the discussion.

They think that the less they say, the less material they give you to judge them. And that's probably because they're judging you.

Some people are naturally less talkative and harbor no ill will. But when the economy of words is combined with other signals listed here, it can certainly indicate the existence of an underlying judgment.

5) Mean Girl Behavior

It's important to understand that if someone is silently judging you, he or she probably has company.

Judgmental people are notoriously childish and prefer to run with one “Click.” Meanness breeds meanness, and birds of a feather really flock together.

When you talk to these people as a group, the main character you're judging may knowingly smile at one of their friends. Right in front of you, no less.

It will be barely noticeable – but certainly judgmental. Rest assured, they will parse everything you said later.

6) Condescension

Another telltale sign that you are being judged is when someone starts to patronize you.

They will be incredible self-righteousbut they will try to hide it under a cloak of fake niceness.

Let's say you tell them you've been hired for your dream job. They will respond along the lines of:

“No way! That's great! Aren't you the lucky one! You should feel a huge sense of satisfaction! Here's a cookie!”


7) Lots of questions

Sometimes people will ask questions they already know the answer to if they are trying to catch you in a lie or embarrass you.

When you deal with the latter, they silently judge that you are doing well – make no mistake.

Have you seen the movie 'Titanic'? Think back to the dinner scene in which Rose's mother asks Jack about the waystation accommodations and his uprooted existence.

Remember how badly you wanted to land the blow? Yes. That's the atmosphere.

8) Deafening silence

An awkward silence could mean someone is silently judging you. It can make you extremely uncomfortable and make you question what you just shared.

Some people are assholes and will use silence to make you feel uncomfortable or to embarrass you about what you just said.

Suppose you make a joke that they thought wasn't funny. Now they won't say they don't find your joke funny. Instead, they stare at you in complete, deafening silence.

Of course, a pause in the conversation doesn't always mean you're being judged. Some people just need to pause and process the information or gather their thoughts before answering.

But if the silence is awkward and is followed by a sudden change of topic, or if the conversation ends abruptly, it's a good bet you're being silently judged.

9) Tone of voice

Another subtle sign that someone is judging you is that of the other person tone of voice. It can turn on a dime: from friendly and involved to abrupt or dismissive.

A person's tone reveals his real thoughts and feelings. If someone is (not so) secretly judging you, he/she may dress you in a condescending or condescending manner, even if his/her actual words are polite.

With a little practice, it's easier to notice these small but telling changes in tone. If you notice a change in tone when someone talks to you, it could mean they are judging you.

Final thoughts

Whether we intend to or not, we all unconsciously judge everyone we interact with. It's just human nature.

But remember: if someone judges you negatively, their opinion has nothing to do with you. They judge you based on their own biases and life experiences, not yours.

Ultimately, the only person's judgment you should consider is your own.

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