Have you ever wondered if someone is attracted to you OR your crush likes you back?
Or maybe your bestie gives off the vibe that they want to be more than friends?
We’ve all been there, scratching our heads and trying to figure out if the feeling was mutual.
Understanding whether someone likes you is not always easy. People are unique and show feelings in their own idiosyncratic ways. Still, there are some common signs people show when they like someone.
So, how do you know if someone likes you without them straight up saying it?
Well, here’s a clue: pay attention to these 13 subtle behaviors. However, keep in mind that these are not one-size-fits-all. But they give you a pretty good idea of whether sparks might be flying your way.
So grab a comfy chair and let’s dive right in. Maybe you’ll crack the code of attraction!
1) They maintain eye contact
Eye contact can be a powerful thing. It’s one of the most common ways we communicate our feelings to others, even when we’re not talking.
When someone is attracted to you, he or she will often find it difficult to look away. You may see them looking at you from across a crowded room, or they may hold your gaze longer than usual during a conversation.
Of course, some people are naturally more comfortable with eye contact than others, so don’t rely solely on this sign. But if you notice it happening more often, along with other signs on this list, chances are they like you.
2) They lean forward when you talk
Have you ever noticed that some people tend to lean closer to each other when you talk? This can be a sign of attraction.
If someone is interested in what you have to say, he/she will naturally want to be closer to you. They want to hear every word and not miss anything. It’s their way of showing that they appreciate your words, and by extension, you too.
So the next time you have a conversation with that special someone, pay attention to his or her body language. Who knows, they might like you!
3) They laugh at your jokes
Laughter is a universal sign of pleasure. If someone laughs at your jokes, even the not-so-funny ones, he or she may like you more than you think. It’s a way to connect and show that they appreciate your sense of humor.
Let me give you an example. I remember once telling the lamest joke to a group of friends. Everyone smiled politely at me, but one person burst out laughing. She thought it was hilarious! At first I thought she had a strange sense of humor. But over time I noticed that she laughed at all my jokes and often looked my way for a reaction when something funny happened. It turns out she was attracted to me!
And if someone often laughs at your attempts at humor, take note: he or she may be showing a sign of attraction.
4) They touch you subtly
Touch is a powerful way to convey interest. If someone is attracted to you, he or she can find small ways to have physical contact with you. It could be a gentle touch on the arm during a conversation, a pat on the back or brushing a stray hair from your face.
Here’s an interesting fact: according to a study published in the journal ‘Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience’, our brains release oxytocin, often called the ‘bonding hormone’, when we touch or are touched by someone we are attracted to.
This hormone deepens feelings of attachment and makes us feel closer to the other. So if that particular person finds ways to incorporate touch into your interactions, he or she may become attracted to you.
5) They remember little details about you
When someone is attracted to you, they pay attention – and I mean really pay attention. They remember little details about your life that others might overlook. It could be remembering your favorite book, the story about your first pet, or how you drink your coffee.
This is more than just having a good memory. It’s a sign that they genuinely care about you and are interested in you as a person.
There’s something incredibly moving about someone making the effort to remember the little things about you. It shows that they appreciate your shared conversations and moments and cherish them enough to save them for future use.
6) They tease you gently
Gentle teasing can be a sweet sign of attraction. If someone is attracted to you, he or she may make fun of you in a playful way. This isn’t about being mean or hurtful, but a light-hearted way to bond.
Let me share a little story from my past. There was a girl in my college who always teased me about my love for comic books. She called me “Comic Book Guy,” an imitation of the character from The Simpsons. At first I thought she was just messing around, but then I realized it was her unique way of showing interest.
So if that special someone is consistently teasing you in a fun and playful way, chances are it’s their subtle way of showing that they’re attracted to you.
7) They are nervous around you
Here’s the raw truth: When we’re attracted to someone, it can make us a little anxious. That’s because we want to show our best selves and are afraid of messing up.
So if someone is nervous around you, they might just be trying not to stumble over their own words or do something embarrassing.
You may notice them fidgeting, playing with their hair, or perhaps talking a little too fast or too much. These are all signs of nerves. It’s like they’re standing on a stage with a spotlight on them, and you’re the audience. They do their best to impress you while hoping they don’t forget their lines.
8) They often compliment you
Compliments are a wonderful way to express admiration and positive appreciation. If someone regularly showers you with praise, he may be attracted to you. They may compliment your appearance, your intelligence, your sense of humor, or a trait they find attractive.
Did you know that giving compliments not only makes the receiver feel good, but also the giver? According to a study, giving compliments activates the same brain area (the striatum) as receiving money! It really is a win-win situation.
9) They show genuine interest in your life
When someone is attracted to you, they want to know everything about you: your likes, dislikes, hobbies, dreams, and even your daily routines. They don’t just make small talk; they are genuinely interested in understanding who you are on a deeper level.
This reminds me of a time when a friend of mine began to show an unexpected interest in my passion for astronomy. He asked about the books I was reading, the documentaries I was watching, and even joined me for nighttime stargazing sessions. At first it felt like he was just a supportive friend. But it soon became clear that his interest went beyond the stars and was actually focused on me.
His constant curiosity about my life was one of the first signs that he was attracted to me. So if someone shows genuine interest in your life, it could be a sign that they like you.
10) They find reasons to spend time with you
When someone is attracted to you, he/she will look for opportunities to spend time with you. Even if it’s just a quick chat at the water cooler at work or a quick chat between classes, they will find a way.
It’s their way of saying, “I enjoy your company and I want more of it.” It may be necessary to note that if that person is always around, ready for a chat or a hangout, he or she may be subtly showing their attraction.
11) They behave differently around you
People often behave differently around someone they are attracted to. Maybe they are usually the life of the party, but around you, they become quieter. Or maybe they are usually reserved, but with you, they become more open and talkative.
This behavior change may be because your presence affects them. They try to become more attuned to what they think you are attracted to.
12) They get jealous when others show interest in you
Jealousy is a raw and honest sign of attraction. If someone likes you, he or she may not be happy when others show interest in you.
Of course, this jealousy mustn’t change possessiveness or control – that is not healthy. But a little bit of discomfort when they see you talking to someone else? That could indeed indicate attraction.
13) They are there for you
If someone is attracted to you, he/she will be there for you – in good times and bad. They celebrate your victories and provide support during your struggles. They won’t run away at the first sign of trouble.
Instead, they stay with you because they care about you.
So there you have it!
From persistent eye contact and playful flirtation to nervous energy and subtle shifts in body language, there’s a symphony of signals waiting to be heard.
Remember that context matters; some signals may be cultural nuances, while others speak volumes within your unique connection.
Trust your feelings, pay attention to the details, and don’t be afraid to leap – the melody of attraction might just lead you to a beautiful harmony.
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