Fear-based conditioning is simple:
Do X, otherwise you will be punished with Y!
It comes in many forms and unfortunately this type of conditioning underlies many societal models, institutions and family structures.
A common example is the public education system, where you are told, “study hard and get into a good college so you can get a good job and be a success!”
If not? “You will fail and get lost in life, probably homeless and addicted to drugs!”
Well… what if you are someone who has outgrown fear-based conditioning and no longer finds it persuasive (if ever)?
How are you?
1) Fear-based formulas don’t work for you
The first key is that fear-based formulas simply won’t work for you.
“Find a partner quickly, otherwise your life will be wasted…”
“Make more money or you’ll be a failure…”
These fear-based formulas simply don’t work to control your life.
You have freed your mind from the prison it was in and you are determined to act on your own judgments and decisions, and not on someone else’s copy-paste code.
2) The meaning of success is complex for you
What does it mean to succeed?
Many socially conditioned and fear-based ideologies give us their answer:
To be rich…
To be happy”…
To ‘be free from negative emotions…’
But your own path to success looks a little different.
If you are on the brink of a breakthrough and you know that the old way of doing things and seeing the world just isn’t working for you, then I highly recommend this free masterclass with world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê.
Rudá talks about his own journey to defining success and happiness for himself and overcoming fear-based conditioning in all its forms (which sometimes tries to control us from the places we least expect!)
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3) Being vulnerable and open is normal for you
In a world where being open and vulnerable is often seen as weak or ‘over-sensitive’, you don’t care.
You are willing to admit your mistakes and fears.
You are not trying to live up to an ideal image or win a popularity contest in your life. When the right people hate you proves you’re doing something right…
You don’t need everyone to understand you or think you are ideal. You’re just trying to live without being a rat in a maze.
4) Selectivity in dating is just the way you roll
You’re selective about who you date and that’s just the way it is.
Being told that you’re being ‘picky’ or having to settle for someone just doesn’t affect you.
If you are in a relationship, it is because you want to be with your partner and really grow and learn in the relationship.
If you’re single, it’s because you haven’t met someone you want to be with yet, or because things haven’t worked out in your favor yet. You are not going to be someone else’s consolation prize, nor are you asking anyone to be yours.
That’s just basic respect if you ask me. And you see it the same way: the fear of being alone will not rule your life.
5) Having low expectations and high expectations
You have low expectations but high hopes, which means you wish for incredible things and work towards them, but you don’t stick around with your hand outstretched.
In fact, you have no sense of entitlement at all.
You know the lie behind fear-based conditioning is a debilitating and insane statement:
That if you do as you are told, life will turn out well. That life will be better and less tragic if you just try to avoid big risks or go outside the rules.
Ironically, the truth is often the opposite. In fact, Doing too much as you are told can literally get you killed.
6) There is no exclusivity or fairness in suffering and pain
Whether or not you are religious or spiritual, you don’t believe in tit-for-tat spirituality.
If you believe in karma, you understand that the true Buddhist concept of karma is not actually about “good things happen to good people.”
Moral delusions in kindergarten do not belong in your head. You know that in many situations good people suffer unjustly, and vice versa.
The best reward for being a decent human being is to be a decent human being.
You understand that and do your best to live by it, rather than acting out of fear of being a bad person, or at least what some person, group, or ideology claims to be a bad person.
7) Accepting fear as a valid emotion instead of ‘bad’
The thing about those who have overcome fear-based conditioning is that it does not mean they have overcome fear.
If you are one of those who are no longer in the fear-based system, it is because you have a healthy relationship with your fear.
You know that there is no shame in being afraid, and that fear is actually a natural part of life and being an authentic person.
“Our resistance to fear maintains this trance and perpetuates our suffering.
As we learn to wait with fear with mindfulness and care, its grip loosens and we reconnect with our full aliveness, wisdom and love.”
8) Focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want
Confirmation bias is powerful, and going through life focused on what you don’t want is counterproductive.
You reject the carrot-and-stick approach because you are not acting from a motivation of reward and punishment.
You want to succeed in your own way and live your best life.
But you are outside the reward and punishment paradigm, especially the rewards and punishments given by others.
Maybe you’ll deny yourself a chocolate cake tonight because you failed on your diet, but you’re not going to do that because your friend makes a stupid joke about your weight and how you’ll “get fat” if you continue like this. .
You act from a proactive goal, not out of fear of what will happen or how you will be judged if you don’t achieve that goal.
9) Staying positive despite the fact that many others are falling for fear-based conditioning
The way people behave does not define them forever. They can change. You really believe that and live by it.
You stay positive and maintain your can-do mentality, even though sometimes you have to go it alone.
You’re not going to base your well-being on the popularity of your position in any situation, and you know that sometimes one brave person standing up creates a tidal wave.
So you might as well be that one brave person.
On the other hand…
10) Networking with other empowered individuals who also live off the beaten path
The power of one is amazing, and you use it every day by choosing not to give in to simplistic, fear-based systems.
But you are also open to connecting with others.
You are open to the power of solidarity and working together with other people who also choose to exist outside the fear-based paradigm.
If this sounds like something you’re dealing with, and you want to connect with others who have overcome fear-based conditioning, then again I highly encourage readers to check out this free masterclass with legendary Brazilian shaman Rudá Iandê.
Rudá brings ancient wisdom into the modern age and gives you very down-to-earth and powerful lessons on how to live an authentic, powerful life that isn’t built around reward versus reward. punishment structure.
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11) Having healthy boundaries that deter manipulators and sociopaths
Fear-based conditioning would be less prevalent if more people had strong street knowledge.
But the truth is that many people are very sensitive to manipulative and sociopathic people and systems.
If an authority figure says something on a screen that rings true, many people will literally do almost anything he or she says. This is the world we live in.
But you don’t live in it.
You think for yourself and have done it strong boundaries that do not penetrate easily. You won’t get ripped off, even if it’s by someone with an official title or who sounds good on TV.
12) Cultivating a strong sense of purpose and drive in your life
You are driven by a strong sense of purpose in your life.
This is a big reason why outside fear mongering doesn’t work on you.
When a politician tells you to vote for her if you want to avoid the apocalypse and not starve in the coming year, you turn off the TV.
You’re already building self-sufficiency and preparing for hardship, and you’re not looking for an on-screen savior to fake compassion for you.
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