If you are fortunate enough to have a grounded person in your life, chances are he or she will bring you peace and guidance.
They may feel like a port in the storm because you can always rely on them no matter how crazy or hectic things get.
But despite how much they have to offer this world, you will never scoop them up.
This stability and stability are no coincidence.
It comes about because they have a wonderful collection of down-to-earth qualities.
1) They are modest
One of the most fundamental qualities that grounded people continue to possess is their humility.
No matter what skills, talents, abilities and gifts they have, they never believe they know everything.
They have a growth mindset that maintains a curiosity about learning. So instead of telling you how it is, they are more likely to ask you what it is like.
Of course, some people mistakenly view modesty as a weakness in a so-called dog-eat-dog world.
But as Bill Taylor emphasizes in the Harvard Business Reviewit can be a great power.
‘In reality, of course, humility and ambition do not have to be in conflict. Indeed, humility in the service of ambition is the most effective and sustainable mindset for leaders who aspire to do great things in a world full of great strangers. Years ago, a group of HR professionals at IBM embraced a term to capture this mentality. The most effective leaders, they argued, exuded a sense of “humbition,” which they defined as “one part humility and one part ambition.”
Grounded individuals remain aware of their strengths and achievements, but do not feel the need to constantly announce them to the world.
Instead, they focus on fostering healthy relationships and helping others without seeking recognition.
2) They are understated
It’s not that grounded people try to go unnoticed. They just don’t want to be in the spotlight.
Yes, they may be more subtle, but it doesn’t minimize their power or impact.
If anything, it magnifies it because it comes from a more stable and unnecessary source: themselves.
That’s why demure people often bring with them a calming energy. They’re not trying to impress.
Much of it stems from the fact that they do not attach their own value to salient external features in life.
They do not believe that certain achievements or worldly goods prove their worth.
Their self-esteem runs deeper, and so it is harder to shake, as we will see next.
3) They have deep self-confidence to the core
The biggest braggarts and braggarts in life are usually the most insecure.
They need all eyes on them to feel important. They desperately want to hear a steady stream of praise and admiration so they can feel good about themselves.
Therefore, arrogance is usually much more of a mask for low self-esteem than a reflection of inflated superiority.
If anything, they should feel sorry.
If you can stay grounded, it’s usually because your sense of well-being and appreciation comes from within.
Down-to-earth people love who they are and feel good about themselves. But they don’t have to make a song and dance about it.
This makes them feel safe enough to be whoever they are.
4) They are authentic and show people their real identity
You will not feel any radiance and grace when you are around a grounded person.
Their main concern is representing who they are, and not worrying about how others will judge them for it.
That’s not easy. Research has shown that the feeling of being rejected is felt in our brains just like physical pain. This means that it can really hurt when you feel unloved.
But for these people, being true to themselves is fundamental and non-negotiable.
That means they have to make peace with their imperfections and weaknesses, but also come to grips with their strengths.
Until we can accept who we are, we often feel the need to pretend or put on a facade in front of others.
As we’re about to see, this usually means leaving our comfort zone and getting realistic.
5) They are vulnerable
Nothing keeps you more grounded than exposing yourself.
Anyone who has ever done this knows how scary it can be.
Being guarded is a defense mechanism we use to feel safe.
But down-to-earth people prioritize honesty in their interactions and avoid unnecessary pretense. And we cannot ignore that. It requires us to open up to others.
Fortunately, as we have just seen, they have a healthy sense of self-esteem that gives them the courage to do that.
Their vulnerability is often one of the most compelling things that draws us to them.
Research shows that even though we find vulnerability difficult to practice, we admire it in others.
As vulnerability researcher and author notes in her book Daring Greatly, “We like to see raw truth and openness in other people, but we are afraid to let them see it in us.”
6) They are moral
This is what keeps grounded people on the right path. It is the compass that determines what is right and wrong.
They do not conform for the sake of an easy life or solely to please other people.
Their values and beliefs are important to them and they stay true to them.
They have things that seem more important than themselves. Things like:
- Upholding what is fair and just
- Standing up against abuses
- Speaking the truth, even if it is not easy
This collective approach to humanity has a lot to do with the next quality on our list.
7) They are empathetic
Sometimes, when I’m feeling sorry for myself, the best thing I can do is listen to a friend who needs a shoulder to cry on.
There’s something about helping others that quickly takes us off the pity train. I think this is because it automatically expands our world and our framework.
That’s why the better we can understand and relate to others, the easier it is to stay grounded.
The most grounded people genuinely care about the well-being and feelings of those around them.
This empathy also allows them to connect on a deeper level with people from all walks of life. That helps them to grow and learn.
8) They are grateful
We live in consumer cultures that actively encourage us to crave more.
There is nothing wrong with wanting expansion in life, it is part of human nature. But without our feet on the ground we just become greedy.
Many of the planet’s biggest problems today, including massive inequality and devastating climate change, can be attributed to an insatiable desire for more that is never fulfilled.
No matter how much they have, for some people it will never be enough.
The secret to curbing constant cravings and finding greater satisfaction is gratitude.
Appreciating what you have right now offers a satisfaction that you can’t buy.
Grounded individuals have a deep sense of gratitude for the simple things in life.
They do not take their blessings for granted and this mindset allows them to find joy in everyday moments that go unnoticed by many.
9) They are resilient and can handle problems
Grounded people have a remarkable ability to navigate life’s challenges with resilience.
They understand that setbacks and failures are part of the journey and use these experiences as opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
They try to maintain a positive attitude, focusing on solutions rather than dwelling on problems.
But they are certainly not naive when it comes to struggles and difficulties.
In fact, they earned their mental toughness by becoming real with themselves. This obviously requires that you know yourself very well.
10) They are self-aware
If we want to stay grounded, we must be able to see ourselves clearly.
Being self-aware is one of the first steps of any personal development. Without this, we remain ignorant of our flaws and blind spots.
The better we understand how we are wired, the easier it is to regulate our own emotions.
We become better communicators, better decision makers and generally feel more confident.
With self-awareness comes the ability to keep ourselves in check and notice when we are not on our best behavior.
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