People who are dissatisfied with life can be some of the most misunderstood people.
And that can be deeply unfortunate, in a world that seems to constantly demand happiness and satisfaction as the be-all and end-all.
So if you fall into the dissatisfied category, it can be difficult to find others who understand what you’re going through because we put so much pressure on being happy.
(While we shouldn’t try so hard, because that’s very harmful.)
Onlookers may not have any sympathy or attention for anyone who isn’t grinning from ear to ear and brimming with positivity 24/7.
More often than not, people confuse your dissatisfaction with negativity or pessimism and quickly avoid you (to avoid it spilling over to them and affecting their happiness).
You’ve probably been labeled a downer more times than you’d like.
If this all sounds painfully familiar, read on to discover the 8 behaviors commonly exhibited by people who are dissatisfied with life.
Often, understanding what we are currently doing can help us figure out where things are going wrong and what we can do about it.
1) Never thinking enough is enough
A telling sign that you are unsatisfied in life is that you are always looking for more.
That bite of cake won’t fill you up; you’ll want to gobble up the whole sponge cake, candles and all.
Earning 6 figures isn’t enough – you want 7.
Four large bedrooms no longer seem so grand now that you’ve set your sights on a country house and a huge holiday villa for the weekends.
Your desire for more – whether it’s more money, a better job, a bigger house, or a nicer car – seems endless.
Part of you knows that you are doing well, but the other half believes that having these things will finally give you the satisfaction you desire. Then, and only then, can you rest.
But this creates an endless cycle where you long for more, you toil to achieve it, and yet your lips never stop smiling. Moreover, the people around you start to see you as quite materialistic, greedy, and money-driven.
This is despite the reality that your pursuit of more is not driven by greed or materialism, but by a deep-seated dissatisfaction with your current circumstances.
If this unhealthy and unhappy cycle sounds familiar, it’s important to remember that true satisfaction doesn’t come from having more…
But instead of learning to appreciate what you already have.
2) Jealousy of others (who seem much happier than you)
Another behavior that tends to reveal dissatisfaction in life is the common feeling of turning green with envy towards others, even when part of you is happy for them. Or at least thinks it is…
We’re all guilty of this, even if it’s hard to admit.
Take me for example. In my own experience, I’ve cheered on friends who scored high-flying promotions and popped champagne bottles for them, all while trying to stave off the niggles of wanting them in their lives.
I wondered what I was doing wrong, why I wasn’t that good, and what it would feel like to be in their shoes.
However, this constant comparison of my own experiences with theirs has only fueled my dissatisfaction. Sure, a healthy amount of rivalry can motivate you, but in too high a dose it’s just a constant reminder of what you think you don’t have, and what you think will improve your life.
(That will not happen.)
The truth is that jealousy comes from dissatisfaction. You look at what someone else has because you are not satisfied with what you have, which is nothing more than a destructive habit that can rob you of joy and satisfaction in your own life.
3) You find no joy in your daily life
One of the most revealing signs of dissatisfaction is the inability to enjoy the present moment or love the little things that life has to offer.
Instead of living in the present, it’s as if your mind is always somewhere else – either stuck in the past or worrying about the future, making it almost impossible to truly enjoy what’s happening now.
If you are constantly stuck in your thoughts and not fully engaged in the present, it is difficult to find any satisfaction in your life.
To overcome this, you need to learn to live in the present moment is an important step towards satisfaction in your life. It allows you to appreciate what you have now, instead of always longing for something else.
4) Extreme self-criticism
If you find yourself being overly critical of your actions, your decisions, your appearance, your wit, intelligence, humor…
Firstly, this makes life incredibly difficult, and secondly, it can be a sign of inherent dissatisfaction.
If someone compliments you, you will blush and say it was never as impressive as they make it out to be.
Or you can chastise and punish yourself for every little mistake or failure, ignoring the fact that absolutely everyone makes mistakes and that they are an essential part of growth and learning.
The problem with being overly critical is that it can lead to low self-esteem and prevent you from recognizing and appreciating your worth.
To combat this, try incorporating daily practices of self-compassion.
It’s hard to break this habit of being hard on yourself, but take a step back and acknowledge all your achievements, no matter how small they seem.
5) Always on the go, never able to rest
Being busy is often seen as a necessity in today’s French world. In any case, rest a freedom that few can take without feeling guilty.
However, if not managed properly, this constant busyness can mask and exacerbate an underlying dissatisfaction with life.
No matter how full your schedule is, no matter how demanding your schedule, you still feel like you’re not accomplishing anything. And you just get exhausted and exhausted while doing this.
But the truth is that being constantly busy doesn’t necessarily mean you’re satisfied or fulfilled. If anything, it only leads to faster burnout and the inability to complete tasks to a satisfactory degree.
So try to tell yourself that it’s okay to slow down. It’s okay to take a moment for yourself.
By taking time to relax and reflect, you can identify what is important in your life and what brings you joy and fulfillment.
6) Constantly feeling like you’re on the brink of burnout
You wake up feeling like you haven’t slept in a week. In weeks. You yawn and your eye twitches, and you feel like you need to hibernate.
If your body is some kind of vehicle, think for a moment: can it continue to run empty?
Have you tried driving down the highways at 100 miles per hour, not bothering to refuel and give yourself a rest?
And this is not the usual fatigue of two hours of sleep. It’s a deeper exhaustion that takes root in your bones that no amount of sleep seems to cure.
This relentless fatigue likely stems from overworking yourself or wasting time in relationships that don’t bring you joy or fulfillment. Moreover, it doesn’t help much if you turn green with envy, criticize yourself, and downplay your achievements.
The key to overcoming this is to identify what energizes you, brings you joy, and rests your weary soul. It’s learning to slow down enjoy relaxation for once, and prioritize self-care, even in the busiest moments.
7) Expert procrastination
What better way to express your dissatisfaction than to spend three times as much time on each task?
Leave the dirty laundry for 2 weeks!
Let the dishes simmer in the mold!
Leave the deadline until the very last minute and then panic to get it done overnight!
And sure, we all struggle with procrastination from time to time, but if you’re putting off everything in your life, it could be because you have no interest or drive to complete these tasks.
You know, when we are satisfied and engaged in our lives, we tend to take action and get things done. We feel motivated and energetic to perform our tasks.
But when dissatisfaction arises, our enthusiasm wanes. Tasks start to feel like chores and we find ingenious ways to put them off.
So the next time you find yourself procrastinating, consider it a gentle nudge to take a moment to check in with yourself. Ask yourself:
- Are you putting it off because you’re really tired,
- Or because you are not satisfied with what you are doing?
- How can you motivate yourself to complete the tasks on time?
- Would it help to stay before trying the task again?
8) A hunger for validation from others
Stop for a moment. If your engine runs dry and you try to feed it with compliments, praise and winks from passers-by, how exactly does that work in the long run?
It’s no surprise that a good night’s sleep and a healthy breakfast prepare you better than living based on validation.
But if you obsess over the latter instead of taking care of your body or mind, you’re setting yourself up for failure.
And whatever your poison, whether it’s obsessing over social media likes or going out of your way to impress others, the constant search for external validation is preventing you from any real, tangible growth.
Because no amount of applause or approval from others can fill the void inside you. Satisfaction comes from within; it’s about knowing your worth and not letting others determine it.
Stop giving others the power to validate your worth.
Say it to the reflection in the mirror if you must; your worth is not determined by how many likes you get on Instagram or how many people approve of your decisions.
It’s easy to feel lost when you’re dissatisfied with life.
Others may not understand your feelings and label you unpleasant, negative, pessimistic, or even ungrateful, but this is simply because society tends to misunderstand those who are not happy all the time.
This pressure to please can leave those who don’t fit in feeling even more excluded and conflicted than before.
So if you’re someone who’s constantly looking for more, feeling empty, or always busy but never satisfied, don’t be too hard on yourself (as this will inevitably lead to more dissatisfaction anyway).
You are full of potential and abilities within you waiting to be discovered.
For everyone, life is a journey and a bit of a rollercoaster, with constant ups and downs. It’s normal to feel dissatisfied at times, and it’s okay to want more.
The most important thing is how you deal with these feelings, channel them into positive changes and learn to appreciate what is already in front of you.
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