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If you really want to start over in your life, say goodbye to these 7 habits

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If you really want to start over in your life, say goodbye to these 7 habits

I feel like there was a clear point in my life where I was born again.

However, I am not talking about a religious experience.

I feel like there were things in life when I suddenly woke up. While in the past I usually floated through life like a leaf on a stream, I suddenly realized that I was more of a boat that could be paddled back and forth.

I realized that I could gain some control over my life and also make some big changes that were really needed.

So I know exactly what it’s like to want to start over, and I was lucky enough to be able to do it.

It wasn’t easy, but what I discovered can help you do the same. Huge, sweeping changes are just way too hard to maintain, and most of the time you end up falling back to where you were before.

But if you can change small things, like individual habits, one by one, they will eventually add up to that whole new life you love.

So if you really want to start over in your life, say goodbye to these seven habits and you will be able to build something completely new.

1) Being indecisive

Where does indecision come from?

I would say this is the result of two factors: low self-confidence and a lack of clear goals.

If you have faith in yourself and your ability to make good choices, you will find yourself doubting all the time. You will switch back and forth between your options as you can see the positives and negatives of both.

But the moment you have confidence in yourself is the moment you can say, “This is the option for me,” and go with it. It’s about trusting your intuition and judgment and having the confidence to take the leap and make a choice.

Of course, it’s very difficult to know which option will be best for you if you don’t have any goals in the first place.

Should you eat noodles or steak for dinner? Depends on what you want to get out of that meal, right?

Should I wear a power suit or dress casual? What matters here is the impression you are trying to give with your outfit or how you want to feel in it.

If you don’t have clear goals in your life, start a new habit by setting some.

You don’t need a goal for every little thing you do, but some overarching goals give you direction in your life.

When decisions come your way, the right choice will be a lot clearer. The right choice is the one that brings you closer to your goal.

2) Procrastination

This is one of the habits that will undoubtedly drag down your old life.

But do not worry; Now that you’re starting over, you have a chance to get rid of this useless and negative habit.

What is procrastination if your current self isn’t causing major problems for your future self?

Every time you decide to put something off until tomorrow, you create a burden that your future self will have to bear. But if you turned things around and started doing them today, you would be doing your future self a huge favor every day.

How do you get rid of this habit?

Start by forcing yourself to do one thing you don’t want to do. If you really want to get things going quickly, choose the thing you most want to avoid and force yourself to do it anyway.

Once you can make yourself do one thing, one more thing becomes less difficult. And after another one and another after that, you’ve licked your procrastination habit and become an anticrastinator!

3) Seeking comfort

Have you always lived your life looking for comfort, for the easy way, or for actions without risks?

It’s time to throw this habit away and start over.

If you’re always trying to stay comfortable, guess where you are?

Yes, right in your comfort zone, and that is a place that, like a plant pot that is too small, does not give you room to grow.

Instead, you should look at challenges so that you can grow and develop as a person.

You will undoubtedly find yourself in difficult situations. You will struggle and you will fail.

But you will also go beyond your self-imposed limits and experience much more of life!

Challenges and even failures will help temper your character and your skills.

By taking on challenges, you learn more about yourself and what you are capable of.

Learning from failures helps you know what to do right next time.

Or you can stay in the same place that you know will never offer you any challenge.

It is up to you.

4) Telling yourself you can’t do it

Call it negative self-talk.

Call it self-sabotage.

Call it whatever you want, but telling yourself that you can’t do things or that you won’t succeed is one of the worst things you can do to yourself.

You don’t even wait for other people to limit you; you limit yourself and place obstacles in your own way.

For what?

Most of this has to do with self-confidence.

If you find yourself always telling yourself not to try because you won’t succeed, it shows that you don’t believe in yourself and your abilities.

So what’s easier to do: build your confidence, or stop telling yourself you can’t do it?

This can be one of those fake-it-til-you-make-it moments where you have to listen to that voice in your head that says give up and do it anyway.

Break this bad habit forcibly, and you will eventually find that you can do many of the things you told yourself not to bother with. And once you see that you can do it, your self-confidence will boost.

5) Do everything yourself

If you want it done right, you have to do it yourself… right?

That old saying forgets to mention that it does not refer to absolutely everything in the entire world.

It only makes sense if you have the best skills and the most attention to do the work yourself. It doesn’t mean you should never rely on someone else to do something for you.

That would be crazy!

After all, there is a reason why we have the concept of division of labor.

Even if you are the best in the world at something, you are certainly not the best in the world at everything that needs to be done.

Imagine you are a brilliant skateboarder.

Does this mean you have to film, edit, produce and market all your own videos? Sheesh – why not make your own skateboards right away?

No, this is a habit or even a mentality that you can throw in the trash if you want to start over in life.

We all need other people, and it makes perfect sense to do the things we do best and leverage the skills of others in other areas.

Whatever you’re trying to achieve, get other people involved and it will be much better – I promise!

6) Working too hard

Most people tell themselves that if they can just work a little harder and push themselves a little more, they will make more money and be more successful.

It may be true, but you have to think about what you’re giving up when you work harder.

Are you giving up some of the energy you should have done differently?

Maybe it’s time you would normally have spent somewhere else.

Ultimately, working harder means more effort or more hours, and that has to come from somewhere.

So, instead of working harder, why not start work smarter?

New apps come out every day that can take you down more and more rabbit holes. However, there are also incredible tools being developed that can help you streamline your work in hundreds of different ways.

Use technology wherever possible to make your life easier and your work more efficient.

Even more useful than new technology is better planning.

Instead of working too hard, take more time to plan your day and prioritize the tasks at hand. You will soon notice that you forget less and therefore waste less time.

You also eliminate tasks that don’t move you toward your goals and are therefore just time wasters.

7) Falling into screen time black holes

Simple.

Stop playing with your phone so much.

Yes, I’m talking to you!

Last words

If you really want to start over in life, say goodbye to these seven habits wasting time and damages your self-confidence.

Choose one of these habits to work on and start today.

Once the ball gets rolling, you’ll find it easy to say goodbye to more and more people until they’re all gone you start again.

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