If you exhibit these 7 traits, you'll probably sleep better alone at night

It is clear that sharing a bed with your partner is not always a paradise.

For one thing, they can eat up any blanket in bed, and there’s always that annoying extra arm when you’re cuddling.

On the other hand, they can also be loud snorers. That’s a challenge if you are sensitive to sound.

Either way, sharing a bed with someone can cause some discomfort. And for some of us… sleeping alone is just a much more enjoyable and productive experience.

So if you exhibit these 7 traits, you’ll probably sleep better alone at night.

1) You hate your partner’s sleeping habits

Unhealthy sleep habits can affect you more than you think.

Staying up late, having an irregular sleep schedule, and even waking up multiple times during the night can affect your fatigue. Naps can also be a problem if they keep you from sleeping at night.

Poor sleep habits can also negatively impact your mental and physical health. Some studies have made connections poor sleep hygiene with poorer mental well-being.

So if your partner has unhealthy sleeping habits, you might be better off sleeping alone!

2) You have anxiety and insomnia

I often wake up late at night, feel anxious, and can’t sleep for more than a few hours at a time. Chronic insomnia is a difficult problem because it creates the fear of not sleeping well.

Additionally, it makes it more difficult to manage our emotional well-being throughout the day.

So whether you have short-term anxiety or an anxiety disorder, it may be harder for you to cope if you share a bed with a loud sleeper or someone who moves too much at night.

If this is what you’re going through, consider talking to a therapist, and don’t be afraid to share your frustrations with your partner. A loving partner will understand and try to help you.

3) You and your partner have different schedules

Maybe you work during the day and your partner has a night shift. Maybe you like to go to bed early, and she doesn’t. There are thousands of different factors that can affect your sleep schedule.

If you are a morning person and your partner is a night owl, this can create tension in your life. Sleeping alone can help you maintain a healthier schedule that suits your needs.

Unfortunately, if you sleep with someone who doesn’t have the same sleep routine, you’ll have to adjust your sleep pattern. You can compromise or sleep separately, knowing that you only have to do what is best for both of you.

4) You thrive on a bedtime routine

Do you often watch your favorite show before going to bed? Or maybe you read your favorite book to unwind and relax before going to sleep?

A nice benefit of sleeping alone is knowing you can do whatever you want before falling asleep without having to consider anyone else’s preferences. You can wake up late and sleep early; It is well!

For some people, it’s a challenge to adjust their bedtime routine and still be able to spend time together. But if you feel like you don’t want to compromise on this point, sleeping alone might be a better option for you.

So, the next time you’re worried about not sleeping next to your partner, try changing your perspective: you can do whatever you want before bed and enjoy your alone time!

5) You need some privacy

My bedroom door is usually open. I could lock it, but I don’t want to, because I like my family to be able to come in: my partner, my kids and even my cats!

However, sometimes I need a little privacy (as we all do), and it’s nice to know I can get it by closing my door. I feel safe in my environment, and when I want to put on some music, relax and recharge, I am free to do so without any problems with my family.

I consider this essential me-time, and everyone who knows me respects that time. But I know it’s my privilege and not everyone can have it the same way.

I have a few friends who sometimes need space, but can’t get it because their partners or families don’t respect their boundaries.

That is harsh, but it is reality for many. In this case, it is a good idea to sleep alone.

6) You are noise sensitive

Sleeping alone is best for one reason: silence.

I know I won’t hear anyone else snoring, moving, turning on the lights… that can be quite disturbing.

My night will be restful and I will wake up rested the next day. That’s why I cherish the nights I get to sleep alone!

If you sleep next to a snoring partner, you lose an average of about thirty minutes of sleep per night. Research showed that the quality of sleep improved for those who don’t snore if there were no snorers.

You and your partner can also invest in a snoring solution that works for both of you.

7) You don’t like pets in your bed

I am a very light sleeper, but the same rule applies to people with allergies and immune disorders.

Sleeping in the same bed with our pets is not a good idea, and it can even be harmful to their health.

Puppies and kittens may need some training before they get used to sleeping with you, and if they are too small, it is better to let them sleep separately for their safety and comfort.

If you can’t sleep with pets and your partner loves it, then sleeping in different beds or rooms might be a good idea.

What are the benefits of sleeping alone?

Some of this may surprise you, but sleeping alone is not good just because you can rest better if your partner snores. For example:

  • When you sleep alone, you have, for the most part, control over the environment in which you surround yourself. The temperature in the room, the amount of light or darkness and the type of bedding you prefer can affect the quality of your sleep.
  • It is also easier to keep certain disruptions under control. You won’t wake up because your partner is moving, and you only have to think about your sleep schedule before going to bed.
  • Sleeping alone is good if you are independent and prefer to stay on your own terms. And if you always sleep with white noise or a fan, you don’t have to worry about bothering your partner either!

Feeling safe when you sleep alone

Many people worry that they won’t be safe if they sleep alone, so here are some tips that may help you if that’s the case for you:

  • Lock every window and door before going to bed, and if you need to, invest in a security system to help you feel safe while you’re alone.
  • Have a regular pre-bed routine that helps your body and mind relax. Add cozy habits like a cup of tea, meditation, a warm bath, and even a book.
  • Let someone know that you are sleeping alone. This person should of course be someone you trust and who can check on you if necessary.

Improving your sleep quality

If you’re not getting enough sleep during the week, a bedtime routine can remedy this.

We’ve talked about it before, but let’s dive deeper into it. Remember: A good pre-bed routine lasts about an hour before you go to sleep.

Here are a few tips.

1) Put away electronic devices

Try not to use your phone, tablet, or even the TV if you can avoid it. Failing that, turn on your phone’s red light filter to improve your vision and avoid straining your phone before bed. Instead, try reading a book or even lighting some candles to relax your vision.

2) Listen to soothing music

Music always helps me relax, but it’s not always the same melodies. So the gender you like is not as important as the emotion it evokes. Close your eyes, listen to the music and try to get into a meditative state with it until you fall asleep.

3) Have a fixed bedtime

Our brains crave structure, and we can thrive when we have control over a few important aspects of our lives. That’s why developing good habits is so essential: we can live a life largely free of fear.

In the same vein, you can use your bedtime routine to enjoy your down time and wake up feeling better than ever. Also on weekends!

4) Journal before you go to bed

Journaling is a great way to analyze our day, remember what we’ve accomplished, and calm our overactive minds. It can be quite relaxing, especially if we do it before going to bed. Expressing our emotions in a journal can help us process our emotions successfully.

5) Meditate

This is a no brainer. Meditation is a great practice, a tradition in some countries, and very useful for our mental and physical well-being. It can also help us calm our thoughts before going to bed.

6) Make your bed on purpose

There’s nothing like the feeling of clean sheets, a soft duvet and fluffy pillows when we go to bed. As adults, we can make our environment as good as we need it to be.

Remember to use seasonally appropriate sheets and blankets so you don’t feel too hot or too cold while sleeping.


Sleeping alone can be a challenge for some and an amazing moment for others. There’s one thing we know for sure: It’s better if you thrive with a routine and love structure, especially if you suffer from anxiety or insomnia. Light sleepers also benefit from it.

So prioritize your sleep and start this journey to rest better and improve your life as much as possible. Honor your needs without fear and make sure you communicate them to your partner.

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