A cerebral narcissist typically lacks empathy, has a constant need for validation, abhors criticism, and feels entitled to things he hasn’t worked hard for.
Sound like typical narcissistic traits?
That’s because they are. The main difference between cerebral narcissism and other types is that of intelligence.
A cerebral narcissist is essentially a know-it-all, except he’s actually smart.
The problem is that they always think they are much smarter than they really are, and they use their intellectual abilities to manipulate and put down other people.
Fortunately, there are certain expressions and behavior patterns that indicate cerebral narcissism, which can make it easier for us to identify who we are dealing with.
Here are the 9 phrases a cerebral narcissist uses to manipulate you.
1) “I have researched this…”
As we have already established, the power of a cerebral narcissist lies in his intellectual capabilities.
That means they usually read a lot. Whether it concerns books, research articles or the news, they like to surround themselves with knowledge about all kinds of things.
While they may enjoy learning new information about the world, they also like to feel like they can use this new knowledge to make themselves seem smarter and better than others.
I was friends with a cerebral narcissist in the past, and let me tell you, I couldn’t win any argument.
Whenever we disagreed on something, my friend would simply say that she had read extensively about the issue prior to the conversation or that she was very familiar with the research being conducted on the subject, which automatically made me feel like I had nothing of value. contribute to the discussion.
If you don’t know what the other person claims to know, you can’t continue talking unless you spend hours exploring the caverns of the Internet yourself.
Once you do, you may realize that the narcissist in question actually has gaps in his knowledge or is twisting facts to fit his own story.
Unfortunately, most people simply decide to trust the narcissist’s word because, after all, they have “done their research.”
2) “Look, who here is more of an expert in this field? Me or you?”
Even if you haven’t researched something extensively, you can still make valuable points, ask interesting questions, and offer a healthy level of skepticism.
Someone who is truly an expert at something will usually welcome that approach, answer your questions with ease, and think carefully about your arguments.
A cerebral narcissist?
Not so much.
Such a person absolutely hates being wrong or feeling like he or she has been ‘outdone’ by someone with less education. Therefore, they will usually dismiss your arguments or mock you by pointing out the differences in your level of education.
“Look, you didn’t even finish college, how could you know that?”
“I have two PhDs. Believe me.”
“You clearly don’t understand how science works. Leave the thinking to the experts.”
If you think these comments sound extremely dismissive… that’s because they are.
3) “Of course you wouldn’t know, stupid”
Speaking of contempt, let’s delve a little deeper into the power of mocking someone for their lack of knowledge on a certain subject.
Cerebral narcissists love to mock others. It gives them a feeling of superiority.
Mind you, they don’t necessarily have to make it clear.
The friend I mentioned, for example, mocked me in the most subtle ways: she joked that I was a little crazy, she commented on my knowledge in certain areas, while hiding her cruelty behind the guise of brazen behavior. honesty, and she used my contributions to the conversation as a springboard for her own intellectual monologues.
The problem is that if someone tells you that you’re crazy enough times, you quickly start to believe it. And as your confidence in yourself decreases, you begin to believe the validity of the narcissist’s words much more.
So the art of manipulation.
Another thing that cerebral narcissists like to do is automatically debunk any argument you make.
“Actually, you’re wrong, because…”
“Actually, that’s not true, you completely misunderstood…”
“I have currently read that…”
While it’s great to talk to someone who challenges you and provides intellectual stimulation, it’s another thing entirely when everything you say is immediately refuted.
The truth is that every point deserves to be heard and considered. Even if you can’t learn much from it, it’s useful to listen to other people and try to understand them better.
Of course, cerebral narcissists don’t really lead discussions to understand people. They just want to win your admiration and manipulate you into intellectual submission.
5) “When I achieved X and won Y”
A great way to gain someone’s admiration and approval is to continually bring up someone’s academic achievements.
At least that’s what cerebral narcissists think.
Most other people find this behavior extremely annoying, and what’s more, the effect it has on them is completely the opposite of what a cerebral narcissist strives for: instead of admiring them, we just roll our eyes in annoyance.
However, that doesn’t stop them from doing it.
“When I was working on my thesis…”
“I felt exactly the same when I got my PhD…”
“Do you remember that prize I won?”
Yes, we remember. You’ve been reminding us for four years in a row.
6) “You spelled it wrong”
If there’s one place where cerebral narcissists thrive, it’s the internet.
The ability to fight with strangers over the most minuscule of issues gives one a great sense of importance and intellectual superiority, and when you are at your wits’ end, you can always bring out your last resort: correcting others’ grammar. .
Who cares if their arguments are valid and logical? They misspelled ‘accommodation’ so clearly they can’t be taken seriously.
And since there are many people who struggle with grammar or spelling despite their expert knowledge or great common sense, cerebral narcissists like to point out these linguistic weaknesses to undermine any opponent who comes their way.
Unless excellent grammar is part of their arsenal, Anon0394 doesn’t stand a chance.
7) “It seems like *words you don’t understand*”
Now that you know that cerebral narcissists are in love with correct grammar, it probably doesn’t surprise you that they also love a grandiose and extensive vocabulary.
Using words you’re unlikely to understand makes them feel above your level, which is exactly what they’re going for when they say things like, “What a quirky moment!”
Don’t get me wrong, there are definitely intellectuals who speak in academic jargon simply because they exist in academia 24/7 and don’t realize that other people may not know what a “paradigm shift” means.
However, if you combine high-level vocabulary with the above phrases, chances are you’re dealing with a cerebral narcissist.
8) “That’s not what I meant”
Even the smartest people are wrong sometimes.
And it is precisely in these situations that we can recognize the difference between true wisdom and intellectual attitude.
When a truly wise person makes a mistake, he is not afraid to admit it and learn his lesson.
“You were right. I was wrong.” They have no problem saying these six words out loud because they are confident enough and self-love not to let it destroy their ego.
Intellectual posers and cerebral narcissists, on the other hand, have difficulty changing their minds and admitting that there are gaps in knowledge. Therefore, they tend to stubbornly stick to their position despite evidence to the contrary.
And if you corner them, citing their previous arguments, they may resort to good old-fashioned gaslighting.
“That’s not what I meant. You clearly misunderstood me.”
By demeaning your ability to fully understand its meaning, they regain intellectual ground and twist the story to their advantage.
But remember that you often understood the other person very well. Only now are they changing the meaning because they feel like they have no other choice.
9) “With all due respect…”
Before a cerebral narcissist says something to put you down or mock you, they may protect themselves with statements like: “With all due respect” or “No offense.”
But that person doesn’t really respect you, and he probably doesn’t care whether you’re offended or not.
She lack of empathy to remind?
For them, it’s about proving you wrong, making themselves look smarter, and manipulating you so they can exert more control over you.
When a cerebral narcissist says, “With all due respect,” it usually means he or she is about to disrespect you.
But now that you know the nine expressions that cerebral narcissists use, you can better recognize when you’re being manipulated and avoid falling into the trap.
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