8 Signs Your Relationship Is Worth Fighting For (Even If It's Not Perfect)

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Everyone has relationship problems sometimes.

Everything in life, from stress at work to family drama, can put a strain on things. But that doesn’t mean it’s time to throw in the towel!

Sometimes a relationship is worth fighting for, even if it isn’t perfect.

If you recognize these 8 things about your relationship, it might not be tip-top, but it might not be over either!

1) You talk about your problems

First, there is communication. A relationship is nothing without good, strong communication – especially when it comes to the problems you’re having!

If you both avoid talking about your problems, this is really not a good thing. And to be honest, your relationship is probably not that strong at all.

But things are really bad when you’re the only one bringing up the issues. Meanwhile, the other remains silent…

For example, if you feel hurt about something, you bring it up. You explain what happened and how it made you feel.

But when they feel hurt about something, they remain silent. They give you the silent treatment. Or they explode months and months later in a fit of rage over something you had no idea about!

These are not signs of a good relationship – or one worth fighting for!

But if this never happens in your relationship – and you both make a conscious effort to talk about and resolve your problems, then that’s good news.

As long as…

2) Your problems are resolved (and no longer occur)

All relationships need some work. I would be shocked if a relationship that lasted more than a few months went without a single problem!

But the point is, it’s not about the fact that you’ve had a problem that’s causing problems. What matters is whether the problem is solved or not…

Let me explain.

Suppose your partner always scrolls through Instagram while you go out to eat together. You tell them it upsets you because you feel like they don’t want to spend time with you.

If they apologize and never do it again, the problem is solved. But if they apologize and keep doing this every time you go out to eat, it’s not resolved. And this is a big problem!

Because there’s no point in talking about your problems if nothing ever changes.

If you only talk about the same problems in your relationship, this is not good. And I think you might know that…

But if your problems actually get resolved after you talk about them, and you don’t have to bring them up again and again, it’s probably worth fighting for.

3) Things get better over time

Ever heard of the honeymoon phase? Well, I hate to break it to you, but it’s completely made up! The idea that a relationship is only fun, exciting and loving in the first few months or years is incorrect.

If you have a good relationship, things will get better over time, instead of worse. And even though you still have small problems and disagreements, you work through them much more easily.

Don’t get me wrong, things won’t be the same as they were in the beginning. But if your relationship is so much stronger now than it was then, it’s probably worth fighting for!

But if you look back on the past and wish they loved you like they did back then, or that they still treated you the way they treated you when you were dating, then this is bad, bad news…

4) You love who they are now

Speaking of the honeymoon phase, which version of your partner do you love? Do you like the person they were when you first started dating? Or do you like who they are now?

People change over time, that’s normal. In a relationship you grow together or you grow apart.

If your relationship is worth fighting for, you will fall more in love with them every day. Every new thing you learn about them makes your relationship stronger.

But if your partner has changed so much that you wish he or she were their “old self,” this is not right.

And if you don’t like this version, the relationship may have ended long ago…

5) The pros outweigh the cons

I think everyone has made a pros and cons list about their relationship at some point in their lives. I know I have! Except I called it a “reasons to stay/reasons to leave” list.

In my case, the reasons for staying were all physical. Like how we had a beautiful house together and a cat. And that we had been together for a long time.

The reasons for leaving were more emotional. Like negative things about the way he made me feel, the hurtful things he had done and who he had become as a person.

If that’s the way things are, it’s not a good thing. The cons outweigh the pros – and it’s probably time to throw in the towel!

But if your pros outweigh your cons and they’re more about the person, it’s probably worth fighting for. Like you love them, they make you feel loved, they make you feel safe, they support you, etc., etc…

6) They ‘do’ more than they say

As the age-old saying goes: “Actions speak louder than words!”. It’s easy to say you’re going to do something for your partner. It takes a little more effort to do it.

That’s why it’s important to remember that just because your partner says he or she is going to do something is not the same as him or her actually doing it.

It’s like they said to you, “I wanted to buy you flowers on the way home from work.” Or, “I wanted to take you on a date on Saturday.”

Those are nice things. But they are just words. Your partner didn’t really buy you flowers or take you out on a date…

If your relationship is worth fighting for, your significant other won’t just talk about the nice things they’re going to do for you. They really will!

You will find yourself saying, “Thank you for getting me flowers” ​​and “Thank you for organizing such a lovely date.”

Instead of: “Oh, that would have been nice, why didn’t you do that?”…

7) They really make you happy

I think it’s easy to get into the habit of saying you are happy in your relationship. Because at some point that might be true.

But ask yourself: does this person really make you happy?

When answering this question, try to separate the good in your life from this person. If you love your work, your body and your social life, these things might make you very happy. But that doesn’t mean you’re happy in your relationship.

If your partner really makes you happy, just thinking about him or her fills you with joy. You enjoy spending time with them and most of your happy memories are connected to them.

If you don’t feel that way about your partner, you may not be as happy as you thought. And just because other things in life make you happy doesn’t mean your relationship is worth fighting for…

8) You trust them 100%

A relationship is really nothing without trust. I’ve experienced it before. I stopped trusting the things they said and it was the beginning of the end…

No matter how hard I tried to ‘forgive and forget’, I couldn’t. Because once that trust was broken, I could never get it back. And I don’t think I’m the only one who feels this way…

If you want your relationship to work, you have to trust your partner. You need to feel like you can trust them to tell you the truth and to follow through on what they say.

Goal trust your partner is not a choice. If they have betrayed your trust, especially multiple times, you cannot choose to trust them again. You just have to feel like you can do it. And if you don’t feel that, I think you already know what’s wrong…

Final thoughts

Love is a beautiful thing. But some love is only meant for a short time.

Things change in a relationship all the time, especially if you’ve been together for a while. People change too.

And sometimes two people aren’t meant to be together forever, no matter how good things were in the beginning.

If you start to doubt whether a relationship is worth fighting for, something is probably already wrong – and I think you might know it.

That said, there may still be hope for you. If you recognize any of these signs, chances are all is not lost forever. You may just be going through a rough patch. And your love just might be worth fighting for!

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