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5 counterintuitive reasons why you are good enough the way you are

5 counterintuitive reasons why you are good enough the way you are

As humans, it is a natural tendency to compare ourselves to others.

We may look at our peers or siblings and think that we are not good enough, or that we are far behind.

You’ve heard it before: comparison is the thief of joy.

Everyone moves at their own pace; life is not inherently a race.

And if you think this is the case, you need to start some serious self-reflection.

Have you ever stopped to think that you are just good enough the way you are? That you’re doing fine?

Once you block out the noise, you’ll gain some uplifting insights, and you’ll no longer feel unnecessarily like you’re not measuring up.

In this article, I will guide you through the counterintuitive reasons why you are good enough the way you are.

If these items resonate with you on some level, you have nothing to worry about.

Let’s dive in!

1) Your flaws build character

Remember that it is your imperfections, quirks and even flaws that contribute to your inner uniqueness.

They shape who you are as a character in this world.

They make you stand out, instead of just fitting in like everyone else.

People who matter know that being different is a strength.

Remember: Authenticity is attractive.

By being authentic, you attract the right people and opportunities.

Meanwhile, pretending to be someone you’re not usually leads to dissatisfaction and softens real connections.

I learned the latter when I was twenty.

My entire teenage life I wanted to fit in, to be accepted like everyone else, to just be a cog in the system.

I didn’t want to ruffle feathers. I refused to embrace virtually any semblance of individuality.

But as I grew older, I realized how valid, weak (and limiting) this view was. I realized I wasn’t doing myself any favors.

By trying to be like everyone else, I wasn’t really living. I suppressed the qualities that made me me.

Once I changed my perception, stopped blatantly conforming and decided to be proud of who I was, things changed dramatically for me.

2) Your mistakes are crucial lessons

If you don’t learn, you don’t grow.

So don’t be too hard on yourself because of past mistakes. After all, to make mistakes is human.

In other words, there is nothing more inherently human than making the odd mistake.

So a misstep here or a blunder there? Do not worry.

Believe me, I have literally made countless mistakes in my life. To this day I still make a lot of mistakes.

What has changed for me is that I now see these shortcomings and failures as opportunities for growth; as opportunities to bounce back stronger than ever.

Some of you may have a tendency to dwell on the past; but in doing so you are doing yourself a great disservice.

Once you start seeing mistakes as platforms for evolution, wisdom and resilience, there will be no stopping them.

3) Your vulnerabilities make you recognizable

We live in a society that still values ​​strength almost exclusively; the unadulterated alpha kind of power.

And while we have made some progress in public opinion, the concept of vulnerability is still often seen as weak.

I’m a sports fan.

Nearly all of history’s glorified athletes have been touted as having a “killer instinct.”

They are admired because they have no vulnerability, mental, emotional or physical.

Because athletes are role models, this mentality sends the wrong message: that to be accepted you have to be strong all the time.

This should not be the case.

From my experience, it is our vulnerabilities as people that make us recognizable.

Our vulnerabilities foster authentic connections with others, who will ultimately appreciate and respect your openness.

So while there’s nothing wrong with being strong, the same can be said about being vulnerable.

Acknowledging and expressing your emotions does not make you less capable; it makes you human.

Emotions give insight and depth to your experiences.

So be kinder to yourself. And use what’s holding you back as fuel for personal development.

Self-compassion almost always leads to growth.

4) Your uniqueness drives innovation

We talked about conformity earlier.

And while conformity in moderation is fine, and even expected, if you conform to it in excess it compromises your innate strength as an individual.

It compromises your uniqueness, your idiosyncrasies, and your ability to cultivate innovation.

Remember, some of the most historic innovators in world history, from Steve Jobs to Henry Ford, Walt Disney and Thomas Edison, were all laughed at and ridiculed at some point.

If they had given in to society’s doubts, we would be living in a very different world today.

The truth is that unique perspectives actually create change.

So instead of resisting your uniqueness and quirks, realize that these are the things that can serve as catalysts for real innovation.

You may not invent the modern equivalent of the light bulb or the car (or who knows, maybe you will), but you will still realize that your fresh ideas and creative solutions have intrinsic value.

Lots of that.

Never doubt that.

5) Your satisfaction is subjective

Years ago I remember seeing a tattoo on someone’s forearm that said “Never Satisfied.”

The final message is that you should never stop growing and evolving, you should constantly look for opportunities to improve yourself.

While I can appreciate the feeling, this endless quest for self-improvement can be. Well, toxic, in itself.

It may sound counterintuitive, but at some point we all need to calm down and enjoy and appreciate the current life and what (and who) we have in it.

Finding contentment in who you are does not equate to complacency, as the aforementioned tattoo might suggest.

It means that you are happy with the stable foundation you have laid; it means that your barometer of success comes from within and is not determined solely by external validation, such as what car you drive or how expensive your watch is.

You can make minimum wage, but if you have a loving family to go home to every day, you can also be the self-proclaimed richest person in the world.

Remember that satisfaction is subjective. Just like everything else.

Last words

To summarize, I would like to say that every journey in this life is unique, including yours.

Your path in life is entirely your own path.

So start embracing your ups and downs, the good and the bad.

Life isn’t meant to be perfect. Stop comparing. Stop living.

As long as you learn and come back stronger, you’ll be in good shape.

In the words of the indomitable Dr. Seuss: “Always do what you want, and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”


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