So you have a man in your life and you wonder if he would make a good husband. How can you know that?
If he puts a ring on it, can you look forward to a life of happiness or are you destined for twenty years of migraines?
Outward appearances may be disappointing, but if you look closely, the following signs will let you know if this man is really worth your time and if he is your forever… or your ‘forever’.
Here’s how to tell…
1) His life is built on respect
This man respects himself and the people around him.
He’s not overly nice and he’s not a people pleaser, but he is respectful. He looks people in the eye when he talks to them and keeps the promises he makes.
You notice that this guy is respectful to everyone. He doesn’t suddenly act mature and competent when you’re around, he’s always like that.
2) He is emotionally stable
The next important characteristic to look for in a partner is emotional stability.
Some of history’s greatest artists and geniuses created things that changed the world, but they weren’t great partners.
Being able to calm the storm within and deal with emotions is an essential part of those who ultimately become an excellent husband.
“The personality trait that most affects our relationships is emotional stability.
Those who don’t have this are often moody, touchy, anxious and quick to anger – all qualities that make it harder to live with someone.
3) His words match his actions
This man not only acts respectful and legitimate, but he actually is.
When he talks about what he’s going to do, he does it. When he talks about his values, he backs it up with his actual behavior in the real world.
There are plenty of guys who can talk about a good game. But what about their actions in the real world? What about what they do when no one is looking?
This ties in with the next point.
4) He knows who he is and he sticks to it
The kind of man you want as a life partner has no doubts about who he is or what he believes.
He has a solid identity and a deep life experience that has made him who he is and what he stands for in a confident way.
This gives him stability in what he will or will not tolerate and makes being with him a comforting experience.
“Those happy souls who know who they are, what they can give, what they need for it, and who live a life synonymous with what they expect from others, are people who have suffered their losses and revealed themselves in their joy .” observes psychologist Randi Gunther, Ph.D.
“They have found ways to integrate the totality of their life experiences into a composition of quiet confidence.”
5) He is affectionate and expressive
The man who is worth your time as a husband is not a block of wood.
He can process his emotions without taking them out on you, but he is also expressive and affectionate. He lets you know that he cares about you and voluntarily goes out of his way to be there for you.
Even if he isn’t a big talker, he makes an effort to express how he feels to you and to be a true partner to you.
He doesn’t just come to you, he is your man and you know it.
6) He is generous and thinks of others
The man you want as a future husband is generous and thinks of others.
He gives his time and energy to contribute to those around him and genuinely enjoys helping others.
He takes care of himself, of course, but he understands on a deep level that he’s not the only one who matters, and he brings that awareness to the relationship.
“Those who possess a generous character are unlikely to consider themselves the epicenter of the universe…
If you want to go through life with someone who enjoys sharing the adventure, rather than insisting on being the center of the adventure, find a generous soul.
7) He cherishes every moment you have
The extent to which a man appreciates you is crucial in determining whether he would be a good husband.
This is why having high self-esteem and self-esteem is essential. You are worth every good thing that comes your way, and you need a man who feels exactly the same way.
He loves you to the extent that he truly appreciates every moment with you. The feeling you get with him is, “this guy wants to be with me now more than anything,” not “this guy feels a little bad about being with me right now.”
8) He prioritizes his relationship with you
He is definitely not simple and he has his own life. But you can tell that he really loves you.
He puts his relationship with you first and wants to give you a great life in every way.
Your relationship is important to him, and it’s clear to you that he would choose to be with you even if another more attractive woman walked by.
He is not with you just for appearances or temporary entertainment. This is not a phase or relationship he can fit into while he has time or space.
He wants to be with you and that comes first for him.
9) He listens to you and values your input
Even if he doesn’t agree, this man will listen to you.
He is willing to be patient and hear what you say without always having to direct the conversation or be the one calling the shots.
Especially when making big decisions, this man hears what you say and really takes it into account, and does not simply ignore his own way of doing things.
You may even know more about some topics than he does, and he’s happy to admit it.
No mansplaining here, folks!
10) He is patient and willing to think long term
There are some really charming guys who won’t last a week of dating because they are so unreliable.
They go for instant gratification and head for the hills when real commitment is needed.
This man is not, in fact, he is the opposite.
He is willing to think long term and delay immediate gratification even if he could.
11) He doesn’t get upset easily
Kindness is an extremely important quality in relationships and when choosing a spouse.
You don’t want a guy who is a pushover or agrees with you trying to get your approval. This is very unattractive and simple behavior.
However, you do want a man who is generally friendly and who is not easily upset by the inevitable ups and downs that occur throughout the day.
No matter how attracted and connected you are to a man, if he makes you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him, he won’t be a good husband for you.
“Agreable partners maintain several strong, healthy friendships, and their past romantic relationships ended relatively amicably.
They don’t get angry with you easily, and you don’t feel like you’re walking on eggshells around them.”
12) He is proud of your victories
He is very proud of your victories and celebrates your milestones.
He doesn’t see the relationship as a competition or a situation where one person has to do better than the other to be happy.
He wants you both to succeed and he is genuinely happy when great things happen in your life and when you achieve successful milestones in your life.
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