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11 subtle behaviors men exhibit in relationships that are major warning signs

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11 subtle behaviors men exhibit in relationships that are major warning signs

When I look back on my dating days, I realize that I missed so many warning signs (or most likely something to ignore them).

You see, I was very insecure and desperate for a relationship. So even though I felt that the guys I was dating were toxic, I tried to convince myself otherwise.

You know, when you know deep in your heart that someone isn’t right for you, but you find yourself texting them back anyway…

If you are currently in this situation, this article is for you.

Sometimes we need someone to lay down all the red flags for us so that we realize that we are wasting our time and hurting ourselves.

So please…

1) Coming on too strong

Relationships move at different speeds, but something that is evident in all toxic relationships is that the man is too pushy.

Yes, I’m talking about the guys who want to get physically intimate right away.

They only want one thing from you. And they certainly don’t respect you.

Goal…

You can choose to respect yourself and walk away.

2) Hot and cold blowing

This is one of the most frustrating behaviors you’ll encounter while dating.

Sometimes guys run hot and cold because they don’t want to commit or because they see other people.

But sometimes it’s a sign that they’re trying to manipulate you.

Think about it for a moment…

If a guy seems interested one minute and is completely unavailable the next, how do you feel?

Insecure, confused, out of balance?

Yes, that’s exactly how they want you to feel.

Manipulators purposefully blow hot and cold to make you feel insecure and insecure about where the relationship is going.

Why?

Because every time they pull away, you feel more and more desperate.

As a result, you try even harder to please them and they are more likely to treat you poorly, giving them the power and control they crave.

3) Cancel regularly

Another major red flag is when a man proves that he cannot stay true to his word.

Does he make plans with you and cancel at the last minute?

Does he promise to meet you somewhere and never show up?

If so, this guy is not serious about being in a relationship with you.

Like blowing hot and cold, he could be doing this to manipulate you and gain control over you.

Or he could be seeing other women.

Regardless of the reason, it’s a major red flag that you shouldn’t ignore.

4) Only talk about themselves

If someone seriously interests you, you will have balanced conversations.

He will ask you questions and genuinely want to hear about your day.

So what if he won’t let you say a word or seems bored when you talk about your life?

According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), this is a common trait of narcissism, known as greatness  (or superiority).

You see, narcissists only care about themselves.

They only consider themselves when making decisions, and in conversations everything they say will be about them.

Not only this, but they constantly seek admiration and validation from others.

So if your man is always bragging about his achievements and blowing his own trumpet, you need to reconsider your relationship!

Here’s another sign of a narcissistic man…

5) Acting obsessed with their appearance

There is a huge difference between being confident and being selfish.

Confidence is being comfortable and secure in yourself; Selfishness is having an inflated opinion of yourself (and, in this case, your appearance).

This is related to a type of narcissist known as a somatic narcissist.

Psychotherapist Katherine Schafler explains that a somatic narcissist uses his physical body to express his superiority, usually by displaying his physical attributes in a conspicuous manner.

So they will seem obsessed with their appearance by:

  • Constantly looking at yourself in the mirror
  • Always adjust their hair or clothing
  • Compliments for the fishing
  • Dressing to show off their muscles

6) Being rude to service personnel

If you want to understand whether a man is decent or toxic, look at how he behaves towards people in low-paying jobs, such as service workers.

This is why…

Narcissistic people need some psychologists’vulnerable high self-esteem.” Sometimes it’s high, and sometimes it’s low.

If it is low, they cannot validate themselves. So they look for ways to boost their self-esteem – one of their favorites is putting other people down.

Although they view everyone as lower than themselves, the easiest targets are those in the service sector.

This is why if you’re on a date with a guy and he’s rude or condescending to the wait staff, you shouldn’t ignore it – it’s a red flag!

7) Being overly sarcastic

Look, I’m British – I’m always up for sarcasm – but in moderation.

If a man is overly sarcastic and makes hurtful joke after hurtful joke, this is NOT banter.

Guys use excessive sarcasm to lower your self-esteem, making them feel in control of the relationship, explains Dulcinea Pitagoraa certified psychotherapist and sex therapist.

Again, it’s all about their fragile high self-esteem. If they don’t feel good about themselves, they want you to feel bad about yourself too.

This behavior also forms the basis for the prevailing manipulative tactic: gaslighting.

Yes, if you tell them to stop insulting you, they will claim that you are “too sensitive” and “can’t take a joke,” making you question yourself and your reactions.

8) Bashing his ex

We’ve all had nightmare exes. But we usually have enough self-awareness to realize the aspects of our past relationships that were our fault.

So when a guy claims that all his exes are crazy, and that he’s never done anything wrong…well, there’s no easier way to say it than to RUN AWAY NOW.

This is a major sign that the man lacks so much emotional intelligence that he cannot see, let alone admit, his faults and mistakes.

This will give you a lot of insight into what a relationship with them will be like. They will probably blame you for everything, and you will also end up being labeled as a “crazy ex.”

Men who lack so much emotional intelligence and self-awareness are also likely to exhibit the following behaviors…

9) Not being willing to compromise

Compromising is a sign of both emotional maturity and respect for our partner.

However, when you date someone who has a greater sense of entitlement, they will never compromise with you.

With a man like that, it’s their way or the highway.

This is an important warning because it shows that the man does not respect or value your feelings, needs and opinions.

You will notice this subtly at the beginning of the relationship, which will save you a lot of grief in the long run.

Think about the small decisions you make with them, such as:

  • What to eat for dinner
  • What movie to watch
  • Which restaurant to go to

If they are always the decision maker and reject your input, they certainly won’t consider you when making bigger decisions.

If you were to stay with this man, the relationship would become unbalanced and one-sided, resulting in resentment and unmet needs.

10) Arguing over little things

This may be an unpopular opinion. But as someone who has experienced both toxic and healthy relationships, I believe arguments in the early stages of a relationship are a HUGE red flag.

The beginning of a relationship is meant to be the honeymoon period where everything goes great. So if you are already arguing about small things now, imagine what it will be like in a year!

I’ve seen friends in this situation, and when I bring it up, they claim it’s because they’re both so passionate.

Now, I understand that two short-tempered people can lead to intense arguments, but this should be about serious issues, not things like someone forgetting to text back or being five minutes late.

To me, excessive arguing shows a lack of emotional maturity. And speaking from experience, being with an emotionally immature man almost always turns into a toxic relationship.

And speaking of immaturity…

11) Avoiding ‘the talk’

Maybe this is another unpopular opinion, but when a man says he doesn’t want a serious relationship, 9 times out of 10 it’s because he doesn’t have emotional maturity.

If your husband always changes the subject when you try to talk about the relationship, or becomes awkward when you suggest making plans for the future, this is a warning sign.

When this happened to me, I convinced myself that he just wasn’t ready to get serious and that the relationship would evolve over time.

It never happened.

These guys love to play on the field and are not interested in settling down.

So if you are looking for a serious relationship, please don’t waste your time on a guy who doesn’t show commitment from the start.

Final thoughts

Let’s be honest; there are a lot of toxic men out there. So it’s up to us to be vigilant when dating someone new.

Whether you’ve had one, ten, or more dates with a man who exhibits several of these behaviors, don’t ignore it. These types of warning signs are not “be careful” warnings, but rather loud alarms warning you of unavoidable danger!

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